Unless you’ve been living in a cave for the past decade, you at least know of eHarmony.com. They’re all over the Internet, television and radio. It’s really amazing how far online dating has come in the past decade. It’s completely changed from being a place for the worlds most desperate people looking for hookups and dates to a place where nearly everyone is doing.
Since the early days of online dating, eHarmony.comm has been there near the top. They’re very similar to Match.com (read our Match.com review for a comparison) in most ways. But in some ways they’re very much different. How are they similar?
- Big budget website with the ability to market their site to a large amount of online daters.
- Been around for many years (eHarmony.com recently hit their 10-year anniversary).
- Use the best matching systems to ensure the most compatible members get together.
But they’re very different in some ways…
- There are more guys on eHarmony.com than Match.com.
- The matching system is more accurate on Match.com. There are less issues with it.
- There are fewer guys on Match.com.
If you haven’t figured it out yet, we like Match.com better than eHarmony.com (and Xpress.com better than both of them). But don’t be mistaken…eHarmony.com is a pretty darn good classified personal ads website. You definitely can meet someone decent, and in a relatively short time period.
We look for quite a bit from these sites. Our expectations are high, as they should be. If we aren’t tough on the sites, we’d be recommending bad dating sites to you. And we’re not about to do that. Yes, eHarmony.com met our expectations. How so? There were enough attractive women, up-to-date website features, and it’s not that difficult to get a date (see our results below).
eHarmony.com: Results We Got Over 3 Months
- 270 email messages were sent to random women we hadn’t previously spoken to.
- 203 of those email messages were responded to by the women (please note: not EVERY response was genuine).
- 7 dates were set-up with different women between the 2 guys reviewing the website.
In 90 days we set-up 7 dates. That’s a pretty solid accomplishment for online dating. You shouldn’t expect more than one date for every 10-12 days on a site on average. You will have some dry spells regardless of the site you use. It’s just the way it is. That’s the main reason we recommend using multiple classified personal ads sites. It makes those dry spells much shorter.
Now let’s get into the daily activities on eHarmony.com so you can learn about what to expect should you decide to join the site…
- Day 1: On eHarmony.com, it requires a bit more to get started than other classified personal ads sites. You have to answer a bunch of personality questions, which is what we did. These questions help match you with women that you would likely be interested in.
- Day 6: We’ve been chatting all week with a few girls and working our way to getting a date. We’re almost there…
- Day 7: Lucky number 7! At the end of the first week, we picked up our first date.
- Day 14: Another lucky number 7! Dates seem to come every 7 days at the start. Weird!
- Day 20: Okay, so not everything comes in 7’s on eHarmony.com. It was a 6-day gap this time, but we picked up date #3 today!
- Day 34: It’s been a while. This time our next date scheduled came on double-7’s (14 days).
- Day 44: Date #5 in the books!
- Day 59: Despite a short gap, we got another date…#6!
- Day 77: Our 7th and final date set-up.
- Day 90: No more dates, but today was the conclusion of our eHarmony.com membership.
Our overall conclusion about the 90 days we spent on eHarmony.com is that we enjoyed the experiment. It didn’t go quite as well as it did on Match.com or Xpress.com. But we really can’t complain. On most of the sites, we didn’t get ANY dates set-up. So 7 in 90 days on eHarmony.com certainly isn’t reason to bitch. Good times!
The Best eHarmony.com First Emails That Got Results
We used a few different emails on Xpress.com but these ones were the most successful. Should you choose to copy and paste them into a message you send to a pretty girl you find on there, PLEASE make sure you do some editing and incorporate specific things about her (hint: read her profile!)…
“Is it me or is this site packed with too many guys? Never mind, don’t answer that! You’re probably in 7th heaven knowing eHarmony.com is a sausage fest. Fortunately, I found one girl that has some things in common with me on here…YOU! I read that skydiving is on your bucket list. That’s something I totally want to do this summer. Need a skydiving partner?”
“My friend forced me to sign-up for eHarmony.com. She said there are a lot of great girls on here. I didn’t believe her at first, but now that I’ve seen your profile, I know she’s right. Cheesy, I know. But I’m being totally honest. You really seem like a down to earth kinda girl. I don’t get the impression you’re stuckup because you’re an attractive girl from reading your profile. So I’m definitely interested in getting to know you. What are you doing this evening? Fancy a chat?”
What We Didn’t Love On eHarmony.com Ads
Nothing is perfect. And eHarmony.com is no exception. Besides, if eHarmony.com was perfect, we would have ranked it #1. Although we do love this site and think you should consider it, there are a few negative aspects you should be aware of. But don’t worry, they aren’t too horrible…
- The questionnaire you fill out does a good job of matching you with women you have things in common with. However, there is a downside to it. On eHarmony.com, you only get to view profiles of those that match your interests/personality characteristics. That’s a good thing, but sometimes the system misses out on showing you profiles of women you would be interested in. It’s not perfect.
- This is one of the more competitive sites because there are a lot of decent women. Sure, there are some very unattractive and mediocre women on this site but there are a lot more decent women. That attracts a lot of men to the site, especially considering how well they market it.
- We’re not sure if some of our email messages were going through. This was only on a few instances, but it kind of bothered us. We had to re-send the messages the following day to be sure.
- You won’t get as many responses to your emails on eHarmony.com as you will on Match.com or especially Xpress.com.
eHarmony.com Review: Is eHarmony.com Any Good?
Yep, eHarmony.com is good…very good. But like we said, it’s just not quite at the level of Xpress.com or Match.com. Now, does that mean you shouldn’t use eHarmony.com? That’s not what we’re saying at all. We just think Xpress.com should be your first option. But we do believe it’s best to use multiple classified personal ads websites.
Start out with Xpress.com. We think you’ll have more success on there than anywhere else. But don’t write off Match.com or eHarmony.com. You need at least 2 sites. When choosing your second site, you should factor in a few things. So let’s do a quick Match.com versus eHarmony.com comparison…
- It takes longer to meet someone on eHarmony.com.
- There are more good looking women on eHarmony.com.
- The matching system is more accurate on Match.com.
- Both websites cost approximately the same.
So, as you can see, there are some advantages to both sites. Don’t get us wrong, there are a lot of very good looking chicks on Match.com. But it seemed like there were more on eHarmony.com. It really comes down to your patience. Do you want to wait longer to get a date but possibly meet someone you’d be more interested in? If so, eHarmony.com might be your best option. You can meet women pretty darn quickly on Match.com.