Congrats on making it to the bedroom. Your efforts to woo a woman to bed have finally paid off. Unfortunately, it does not end here. After your sexual encounter, she refuses to answer your calls. It leaves you to wonder, what could have gone wrong? After all, everything went quite well – or so you think. Here are the top 5 mistakes men make in bed when sleeping with a girl they just met.
1. Blowing or sucking her ears too hard
Forceful blowing or sucking on the ear canal can cause severe discomfort or even damage to the ears. If you must, whisper gently in her ears, gently caress them with your breath, giving sensual warmth. Kiss her ear lobes gently and maybe a little nip to add more sensation. Do not suck out her ear canal like a vacuum cleaner. It is extremely uncomfortable for most women. Also, if you get aggressive for some reason and decide to bite her ear lobes- you’re in for trouble. Be gentle with her, enjoy the sensations of pleasure and keep her feelings in mind.
2. Misuse or no use of a condom
Wearing a condom on your first sexual encounter with a woman should not be an option. It should be a necessity. You are the man, and you should act responsibly regarding your health and hers. The last thing you want is to get a woman pregnant the first time you go to bed with her. You also don’t want to exchange sexual infections. Be responsible and safe, use a condom. Finally, be sure to dispose of your condom after using it. If she is not your wife or girlfriend, don’t expect her to clean up after you.
3. Ignoring foreplay
Foreplay is important for setting the mood for intimacy. It shows a woman that you care enough about her feelings and want to please her. If you are going to go as far as having sex with a woman, don’t skip the foreplay. Laden her with kisses all over her body starting with her lips. Caress her and give her gentle massages. Do not try to rub her down with your elbows. Speak softly to her, stroking her breasts and clitoris with your fingers. Some men just want to cut the foreplay and get straight to the point of sex. But remember, once you’re not sleeping with a prostitute, spend time exploring your woman’s body and satisfy her. Ignoring foreplay and going too fast are a sure turn-off. Never let her feel that she’s made up of just two breasts and a vagina.
4. Forcing her to have oral sex
This is totally uncool. Oral sex should be done by mutual consent. Never try to coerce a woman into giving you oral sex. This is totally offensive to some women and can be seen as an assault or violation on her body. Some men literally try to push the woman’s head down for her to suck on his sexual parts. Ask her calmly about the matter, and if she agrees or disagrees, let her know that you respect her stance.
5. Having rough sex
While this might not be a problem for some women, others might find rough sex rather uncomfortable. Pounding out her life with your tool and dragging her across the room like a rag doll, is utterly inconsiderate. It is senseless to ask a woman if she likes sex soft or rough as though you’re asking her about coffee. The best thing to do is to start off gently and follow her rhythm. She will guide you regarding how hard she wants you to go when the time is right. Note, not all women can have hard sex. Don’t try to copy what you see on porn videos, most of them are not true. What’s the rush? After all it is your first date.
Many men are misguided about the way to treat women in bed, and about what women need. Of course, women are not your sex dolls. Don’t reckon you can do just about anything you like and expect her to contact you again. As adults, you both should be able to communicate each other’s likes and dislikes in bed. Spend time to explore her body, pay attention to her cues. Don’t be bashful, mean or talk dirty to a girl you just met. Be thoughtful and show the woman that you care about her feelings too. This will lead to healthier and more pleasing sexual encounters.