Men need to understand that women don’t necessarily have to have an orgasm to be satisfied. She can be very happy and contented with her relationship and sex life and yet never orgasm. Every woman is different when it comes to sex. Some women will orgasm several times during sex, while others will reach their peak of pleasure without an orgasm. If however, you are constantly nagging her, “did you come, did you come?”, then she’ll probably just say yes to get it over with. Other times, she fears that you might think that you cannot satisfy her. All the stress, fears and expectations of what a woman should feel, will contribute to her not even climaxing at all and fake an orgasm in the end. Women who do not experience frequent climaxes by nature, are often pressured by media, friends and spouses to do and expect things that are not necessarily true. Some women get so accustomed to faking orgasms that it has become routine and they get pretty darn good at it.
The only way that you’re going to tell if your woman is faking an orgasm is by understanding how orgasm really affects the mind and body. Here are some quick guidelines for recognizing true orgasms.
WAYS OF RECOGNIZING TRUE ORGASMS
She gets in a sudden frenzy and rips your skin off with her nails or teeth. She might not mean to do it, but it is hard to control behavior during this overwhelming climatic experience.
Her fingers and toes might curl in the moment’s pleasure.
She will probably make unusual faces and not as a joke, but her facial muscles will squirm beyond her control.
She might discharge more vaginal fluids than normal during sex.
You will feel her get tense as her muscles spasm as a result of the extreme feelings she gets from climax.
Her heart rate and temperature might increase.
Her breathing will probably get more labored.
You might even feel that contraction in her vaginal wall sometimes.
She will look flushed in her cheeks and her nipples will be erected as blood flows heavily throughout her body and especially her sexual parts.
Most likely, if your partner is faking an orgasm, she will not be doing any of the above. Even after learning all the guidelines, you probably won’t remember all the cues when you are actually enjoying the moment of pleasure.
Sometimes men are too focused on pleasing themselves or are too concentrated on pleasing the woman. These behaviors can have negative impacts on true sexual experiences. Regardless of the circumstances, no man wants to be lied to. It is kind of intimidating to their masculinity when they are under the impression that they are doing all the right things when they truly are not. If your girlfriend won’t come straight with you about her orgasmic experiences, then chances are she will continue to fake.
WAYS OF RECOGNIZING FAKE ORGASMS
She talks too much
Most women don’t have time to make long sexy sentences when they orgasm. This can take so much energy to accomplish, that she does not have time nor breath to say anything else but simple 1 to 3 word phrases.
She is too loud
Again, orgasmic experiences are different for every woman, but with so much energy expended to do this, many women are tired and out of breath by this time. She will be more likely to cry with pleasure than scream and shout sentences.
She recovers too soon
Most women will at least relax for a little while, ponder their wonderful feelings, or catch some breath after a genuine climax. If your girlfriend gets up immediately and goes for a stroll as if nothing happened, then she probably faked her orgasm.
She gets all dramatic
Orgasm is not usually a dramatic experience. She will quiver and curl in ecstasy, but she will probably not be doing those graceful dramatic movements, whipping her hair adoringly, gently waving her hands like a ballet dancer. She will not act like a Jurassic monster, slapping you silly across the room either. There are usually no sexy moves or fighting scenes as a result of orgasm. And she probably won’t be smiling either. Climaxing is involuntary and so are the expressed results.
Overall, a woman wants to know that she is appreciated by her man. Make her feel comfortable in her body and once you show her how sexy you think she is, she will probably have no need to fake her feelings. Relax and talk to your girl, if she feels that you care enough about her feelings, she will probably be truthful to you. She is simply trying to make her man feel good.