You might come across women on personal classified sites who you think you might be interested in. Things are however, not always what they seem, and people are not always who you expect them to be. Questions might be left unanswered, you feel like there are missing gaps in your conversations with that person. Chances are you are being scammed or you are entering into an extramarital affair. It’s not easy to make judgments, but as the saying goes, “your guts will guide you”. It is best that if you are not sure about your current situation, do everything to find out. You cannot always listen to what people say because you like them and choose to play along and be left in the darkness. The last thing you want is to be involved with someone who is married. Her husband most certainly won’t take kindly to the affair, and you don’t want to be in the middle of a battlefield. Most men browse personal classifieds for a woman to call their own.
To ensure that you don’t end up in the gutter, here 5 signs the girl you met on a classified personals site is married.
1. She refuses to post her photos
Single women love to take the best photos and post them online in hopes of attracting a man. Married women on the other hand, will usually not post their photos, and might not even care if someone contacts them or not. They would prefer not to risk being recognized by their spouse or someone else. She might give an excuse for not posting a photograph on the grounds of protection of privacy, job interests or some other good excuse.
2. She claims to be single but refuses to give you her credentials
If a woman is married , she may not want to disclose to you her telephone number, address or workplace. This is simply because of fear of being found out by her spouse or fear of you finding out who she really is. Women tend to be very cautious about the situation they get themselves involved with and are good at hiding personal information. Her preferred way of contact will most likely be via email, sms texts or her calling you at random times. She might use a pay phone or some form of identity block on her private phone when she calls you. These are definite signs of someone who is trying to hide something (like a husband) from you.
3. Refuses to tell you her surname
Why would someone you meet, correspond with and share mutual interests, refuse to share their last name with you? Obviously she does not want you to know who she really is. Women may sometimes go on to use fake names and age to mask their identities. This will lead you nowhere with background checks, only to tell you that she is probably not who she says she is. But who would go through the trouble and expense of doing a background check on someone you just met? If you need to go that far, then you do not trust her for some reason and it is best to discontinue the relationship.
4. You never meet her friends or relatives
Unless you’re dating an island, she must have some close acquaintances, family members or friends that she socializes with. If you met a woman on personal classifieds and you are in a serious relationship with her, you may find it odd that you never meet any of her friends or relatives. If she is married, she will try to avoid public encounters with you at all costs.
5. If you do eventually get her phone number, contact might be erratic
If your lady friend has something to hide, listen out for numerous excuses when you call her. You may constantly have to leave voice messages, or she might always say that she is busy and will call you right back. Women can easily put her phone on silent mode so that her personal calls will not wreak suspicion by her husband.
These are certainly not the only ways to tell that a woman is married, nor are they ways to make a complete judgment of your situation. There are many other reasons why women may behave the way they do, including trying to protect themselves from internet perverts, stalkers or criminals. After all, women have to be more cautious with their online advances. The best thing to do is look carefully through personal profiles for any clues you can put together about a person. Be vigilant to those tiny cues. No one will give too much information about themselves, but never be afraid to ask the right questions. Anyone who refuses to respond to your requests, or is deceptive in their ways, is not worth your time.